Al-Bara’ ibn ‘Azib said, “When the Messenger of Allah, may Allah bless him and grant him peace, used to retire to his bed, he would lie on his right side and then say, ‘O Allah, I surrender my soul to You and I turn my face to You and I entrust my affair to You and I seek Your support with hope and fear of You. There is no refuge from You but to You. I have believed in Your Book which You sent down and Your Prophet whom You sent.’” [Al-Bukhari: 814.]
al-Bara’ ibn ‘Azib reported: ‘The Prophet, may Allah bless him and grant him peace, said to me, ‘Whenever you go to bed, do wudu’ as you do wudu’ for the prayer and then lie down on your right side. Then say…’” and he mentioned the rest of it and in it is, “Make that the last of the words that you utter.” [Al-Bukhari: 815.]
816. ‘A’isha said, “The Prophet , may Allah bless him and grant him peace, used to pray eleven rak’ats at night. When it was dawn, he would pray two quick rak’ats and then lie on his right side until the mu’adhin came and gave the adhan.” [Agreed upon] Continue reading →

Find a range of ideas for imaginative play, covering themes children love such as dressing up, pretending and role play and dinosaurs.

Dinosaurs

Kids love dinosaurs. They’re a huge source of fascination but unlike make-believe fantasy creatures from cartoons and kids programmes dinosaurs have a real educational value; you’re not just ‘playing dinos’ but actually learning about the prehistoric world before humans came into being, and introducing your child to a subject they’ll probably cover at school as part of the National Curriculum. You shouldn’t need too much help to bring these epic creatures to life but if you’re struggling for inspiration, here are some fun play ideas to stimulate your child’s imagination:

Make a primordial, swampy forest, using old blankets and towels, and pretend to be your favourite dino or use plastic dinosaur figures to play out a prehistoric scene. This game can be transported outside if the weather permits, using the flower beds as the backdrop jungle.

Play ‘hide the dinosaur egg’ – use a pretend egg (you can buy these from toyshops or joke shops) or a real one (kids will love blowing out the egg whites and yolks first!) and take it in turns to hide the egg. Perhaps once you’ve finished playing you could then decorate the egg with pens or paints.

Go on a dinosaur hunt – make pretend magnifying glasses out of cardboard and foil and dress up in ‘safari’ gear (e.g. hats and shorts) and hunt around the house looking for dinos. Hide cut out ones you’ve made earlier or toy ones in unlikely places! Continue reading →

Every parent dreams of having kids that are trustworthy, conscientious, and willing to take accountability for their actions.

Unfortunately, kids aren’t born knowing how to be responsible – they must be taught. Children who don’t learn to be accountable for their actions grow up to become irresponsible adults and blame others for their shortcomings. Listed below are some things mums and dads can do to raise responsible kids.

1. Give Children Chores to Accomplish

For a child to learn responsibility, he has to be given responsibilities. From an early age, you can give your child age-appropriate chores to accomplish. For example, children at 3 and 4 can be taught to make their beds in the morning. Chores teach children to plan and follow through and provide them with a sense of achievement. Make sure you praise responsible behavior. Positive reinforcement is a powerful motivator, particularly for children in grade school.

When assigning chores, let your child have a say in what task he performs and to make sure he agrees to any consequences that will be imposed for shirking. This also teaches responsibility, because it makes your child feel like he is part of the decision-making process, and it reinforces that he must live up to what he agreed to do. Consequences should be designed to fit the offense. For example, if your child doesn’t do his chores by the deadline, he will not be able to play until it is done. This teaches another lesson about responsibility–that work comes before play. Continue reading →

Lying is the intentionally supplying of false information. On the other hand, when a person says something that is untrue, that he actually believes to be true, he has made a mistake. In this case, he may be misguided or uninformed, but not lying.

A lot of what a child says begins in his imagination. He may imagine an action and tell others about it as though it has actually taken place. This is not considered lying in a deliberate sense. A child will visualize, dream, hope and fantasize while still lacking the cognitive and linguistic ability to distinguish between what is imaginary and what is real. For this reason, he is not taken as a liar, but rather a child. We have to understand that fantasy is a normal part of child development.

Although, it is also true that some children do intentionally tell lies and conceal the truth. This could have several causes: fear of power, craving for attention, or purely for entertainment.

Fear of Power:

A child who feels afraid or powerless may think that lying will gain him the approval of others or cause him to escape punishment. This is commonplace in homes where the parents are overly controlling and negative. The child gets no approval or affirmation from the family, and the only escape from what he perceives as prison, is to lie. This immediately will bring to mind the teen years, where lying about what, where, and with whom, are questions that are all subject to fabrication. But, we should realize that a pattern of lying will have been well established before adolescence if it is being used as an escape tactic so we need to identify it in the earliest stages. Continue reading →

History of Adhan

In Makkah, the number of muslims was small. They could make Jama’ah without any call. When Muhammad (peace be upon him) arrived in Madina, the number of Muslims started to increase. Muhammad (peace be upon him) built masjid An Nabawi to offer salah regularly. By the second year of Hijrah, the number of Muslims had increased. The people announced in a loud voice. “As-salat ul-jamiah (the salah for jam’ah is ready).” Those who heard this call came to join the salah. Muslims felt the need to find a way to inform people to come to the salah. Muhammad (peace be upon him) asked his sahabah for their advice.

Some sahabah suggested that the muslims, like the jews, should blow a horn to announce the time for the salah. Others said, the muslims might ring bells as the christians do in their churches. A few proposed that the muslims, like the fire-worshippers, kindle a fire call people to pray. Muhammad (peace be upon him) wasn’t satisfied with any of these ideas. He waited to hear a better idea or to receive guidance from Allah. Continue reading →

Duties of the Month of Muharram- by Imam Ibn Rajab al-Hanbali (Allah have mercy on him)

1. It is the best of months for general voluntary fasts, after Ramadan.

2. It is especially recommended to fast the 10th of Muharram (known as the Day of `Ashura’), with a day before it or after it. [Ibn Abidin, Radd al-Muhtar, quoting Kasani’s al-Bada’i`]

3. It is also virtuous to give in charity on this day.

Extracts from Ibn Rajab’s Lata’if al-Ma`arif, regarding the month of Muharram:

The Virtues of Fasting in the Month of Muharram and Its First Ten Days

Muslim reported from Abu Hurayra (Allah be pleased with him), that the Prophet (Allah bless him and give him peace) said , “The best of fasts after the month of Ramadan are in the Month of Allah, which you call Muharram. And the best of prayer after the obligatory prayer is the night prayer.” [Muslim, 1163]

This refers to general voluntary fasts according to Imam Ibn Rajab (Allah have mercy on him): These are best in the month of Muharram, just as the best general voluntary prayer is night prayer. Continue reading →